Am I the only one who can’t fully rest in their own home?! Tell me I’m not!
When Ezra was a couple of months old, my husband and I packed a bag and the 3 of us loaded into the van and headed a couple of hours away to a hotel.
After we settled in the hotel we discovered we both forgot to bring a charger for our phones. DISASTER!!! There was no way even one of our phones would last 3 nights — they barely make it through 12 hours without a charge.
Each time we went out in the car we took turns using the car charger to juice up our phones. It wasn’t long before they were starting to run low again and drained by all we were asking of them — especially those google maps! Jason even sat out in the car a few times in order to feed our phones so they would last the weekend.
We switched them off over night as even though we weren’t actively using them, all the push notifications took their toll.
That weekend and my phone showed me something.
When was the last time you felt fully charged in your Spiritual life?
When was the last time you had a quiet time long enough to fill you up and leave you walking away REnewed and energized?
I know for me as a new mom I have been running partially drained and it is exhausting. Partially drained in terms of sleep, but also in terms of how much time I am spending filling my heart with God’s Word. I’ll read a quick devotional, have a conversation with my husband, read a verse a friend texts…all good and wonderful ways to feed the heart and mind, but none of them are going to fully charge my heart.
I needed help. My husband and I now take turns locking ourselves away in the quiet in order to fully focus on feeding our hearts and hearing from the Lord.
The push notifications our phone receives push pressures from the world into our partially drained minds resulting in God’s Word seeping through the cracks the world causes. We must remained plugged into the Source of our Christian charge. We must allow time for His Word to REnew, REstore, and REcharge when we come to Him for REst. The prefix “RE” comes from Latin and literally means “again and again.” We have to REturn to God’s Word again and again for constant charging.
“Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30 NASB (emphasis mine)
We have to actively go to Him for REst.
“But those who wait on the Lord
Shall renew their strength;
They shall mount up with wings like eagles,
They shall run and not be weary,
They shall walk and not faint.” Isaiah 40:31 NKJV
Now that Ezra has discovered what napping actually means it’s a little easier for me, but it still requires switching the push notifications from the world off.
A couple of weeks ago at the Mom2Mom group I attend, the speaker implored how important a mom’s emotional health is to the overall health of the home. True. But I will add to it and say the SPIRITUAL health of a mom is an essential component to the overall health of the home.
We moved when I was pregnant and our closest family lives 6 hours away, and all of my family lives in Scotland, so I completely understand the feelings of being alone and not having help. I get it, I really do, and I have had some dark moments in the past few months. But it is our responsibility to find a way, to find our chance to charge. Of course, this doesn’t just apply to moms, but as a new mom I want to share some ideas I have discovered.
- If you are married, speak to your husband. Share your need for some quiet time in your day to spend with the Lord. Work together to allow each other the time you need. Chances are he will have a desire for you to be in your Bible. Jason assumed I had a chance during the day as I am home, but us SAHMs all know that’s not necessarily going to happen! Our husbands don’t understand our day unless we communicate with them and let’s face it – it’s often in their best interests to allow us some quiet time.
- Find a church with a Bible study. I found a church (we don’t go there on Sundays) that has awesome women’s Bible study on Tuesday mornings and a Mom2Mom group on Fridays, both with childcare (although Ezra stays with me for now). I was so nervous showing up that first time not knowing anyone, but oh am I glad I did! Those women have become my God-given friends.
- Meet up with a Christian friend. I made a friend at Bible study who has a baby a couple months younger than Ezra and we go for walks with our strollers and talk about the Lord, Bible studies we are doing, passages we have read, ways the Lord is speaking to us. Use your baby connections for fellowship and not as a time to vent!
- Meditative music. When I put Ezra down for a nap I play Hillsong babies lullaby music. It’s now more for me than him!!
“The Lord is my strength and my shield;
My heart trusts in Him, and I am helped;
Therefore my heart exults,
And with my song I shall thank Him.” Psalm 28:7 NASB
“Do you not know? Have you not heard?
The Everlasting God, the Lord, the Creator of the ends of the earth
Does not become weary or tired.
His understanding is inscrutable.” Isaiah 40:28 NASB (emphasis mine)
How do you find time to spend with the Lord in order to remain charged up?